Wellington, Cape Town

Is it really about you?

Is it really about you?

Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another,  that you may be healed.  The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working.  John 5:16

About 2 weeks ago, I confessed a sin in my life (it was the elephant in the room) to fellows Christians I trust, and asked them to pray for me.  Doing it wasn’t easy, it took a lot of courage but I knew I had to. I knew that I needed prayer, and I knew that bringing my sin to light would make me feel lighter, and allow the Holy Spirit to help me.

Confessing my sin wasn’t about me.  I could continue to live in sin, and nobody would have either corrected me or even known. It would be easier for me to continue to live in sin as it is a tremendous amount of effort to correct (even though I would have heavenly help), BUT it is not about me. I want to live a life that glorifies God, I want to do it for Him! I want another testimony to share and encourage others.

I recently wrote and shared a testimony in church and I am going to share it here as I find it rather fitting.

It’s not about you.

These are probably the most encouraging words I have received.

Now I know that most people would be offended if someone said this to them but they were an answer to a few of my recent prayers in a roundabout way.

Realising that it is really not about me, has been freeing.  I find myself thinking differently. Now this is very recent and I know it is a work in progress but I really feel the need to share this with you.

I haven’t been attending church for quite some time because I would be distracted by my little one and figured what’s the point of coming if I can’t focus.  So I would listen to the recordings, not always though.

A week ago I had coffee with my ministers wife, and as I was leaving she mentioned church and I again said that I can’t focus with my little one.  Then came the words “It’s not about you.”  They have been brewing on my mind every day, and every day I realise the weight of these words, and with that weight, comes relief.

Coming to church – is not about me.

Being a parent – is not about me.

Being a loving person – is not about me.

My business – is not about me.

Writing – is not about me.

Standing up in church to share  – is not about me. (it terrifies me though)

Nothing is about me.

It is about God.  About furthering His Kingdom. About sharing my testimony. About being a great ambassador for God and doing His work here on earth.

So I am going to leave these words with you, and hopefully they encourage you as they did me.

It is not about you.


Is confessing our sins not another way to glorify God?  It takes courage and humility to confess, and does that come from you or God?  Then the process of correcting/changing our behaviour, is that us or God?

We need to be careful of who we confide in.  Many people aren’t for you.  Many Christians live a disillusioned li(f)e, and others are immature.  I am very blessed with amazing Christians in my life.  People who will not judge me but pray for me. People who will give me the best guidance.  People who rely on God.

I want to challenge you to think differently about every situation in your life.  Is it really about you?  How can you best glorify God in that situation?


Keeping it simply raw & real.

Your sister in Christ.


1 Corinthians 10:31

Whether, then, you eat or drink or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.




Comments: 1

  1. Christine says:

    So interesting. That love is the subject of the first two and most important commandments on which everything else is anchored, and is never about us and always about the object of our affection. That we have to lose ourselves to find true life in love for God and others. That at the same time we are radically, illogically and completely loved by our Father which is all about us, the object of His affection. It seems then He has us covered and we have lost nothing at all but gained the whole world in loving Him and letting His love flow freely through us into the lives of others. Love this piece, thank you!

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